I often retell this anecdote, from when my parents found out that Franklin and I were kinky. Many of you may have heard it.
Both my parents and I were in the living room. My father was trying to ignore my mother and watch tv. My mother was going on and on about “What should we do about this?”
My father finally looks at her and goes “Look, what do you want me to do? Spank her? THAT obviously didn’t work!”
Well, maybe it worked better than they thought? Apparently, there is a new study linking spanking children to risky, deviant sexual behavior.
I’m alternately bemused, and offended. This is what researchers are working on?
I was spanked as a child. In fact, I am pro-spanking. See, anything that I got spanked for, I didn’t do again. I don’t think it ‘damaged’ me at all. I’m also pretty sure it didn’t ‘make’ me kinky. As far as I can remember, that was inside me way before I was ever spanked. I remember pretty far back. So yes, some bemusement.
But then the part where I’m offended shows up.
“It’s the same with spanking, Straus said. “If a person says, ‘I was spanked, and I don’t have any interest in bondage and discipline sex, that’s correct, but it’s not because spanking is OK, it’s because they’re one of the lucky ones.”"
Right. One of the lucky ones. Chew on that, my pervy friends.
Ah well, at least we can blame our parents in therapy.
Spanking Raises Chances of Risky, Deviant Sexual Behavior
Review found physical punishment of kids linked to unprotected, masochistic sex as adults
By Amanda Gardner
Posted 2/28/08
THURSDAY, Feb. 28 (HealthDay News) — Researchers have uncovered another damaging consequence of spanking: risky sexual behaviors, or even sexual deviancy, when the child grows up.
“This adds one more harmful side effect to spanking,” said Murray Straus, a spanking expert who was expected to present the findings of four studies at the American Psychological Association’s Summit on Violence and Abuse in Relationships in Bethesda, Md., on Thursday. (more…)
